The Great Do-It-All-Yourself Hoax


People say that if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself. And yes, you can do it yourself and get it done exactly how you want it. You can also wear yourself out trying to do everything.

When I was a new young women president, I pretty much did everything myself. No one was responsible for activities, which mean I did them. No one was responsible for New Beginnings, Night of Excellence, camp, sports, you name it. That left me holding the bag for a lot of things that I didn’t absolutely have to do. It made me a little crazy. Here are some reasons why it’s a bad idea to go it alone:

You Will Wear Yourself Out

Before I divided up responsibility for activities, I found myself frantic and barely prepared in time for each week. It was incredibly frustrating. Meanwhile, everyone else wasn’t doing a whole lot. I was getting worn out and feeling like no one else was doing their fair share. And, it was all my fault that I felt that way.

You Deny Others Opportunities to Learn and Grow

Not only will you become exhausted, other people won’t get to learn and grow around you. One of the main objectives of the Church is to help others come unto Christ. One way to do that is by stretching ourselves to serve Him.  Some of that happens through our callings. If you aren’t leaving any opportunities to take ownership to your counselors or you class or quorum presidency,  they will miss out on opportunities to be challenged and to grow.

Someone Might Have a Better Idea than You

Believe it or not, if you are generous with responsibility, you will find that someone else might do a better job at a certain task than you. We all have unique strengths and talents. They are meant to be used to serve the Lord. The honest truth is that you aren’t good at everything. I know I’m not. There are some things that someone on your team can do better than you can. Let them do it!

Now, we’ve talked about why you shouldn’t do it all yourself. Here are some things you can do to stop trying to do it all.

Decide What Absolutely Must Be Done By You

When I was a young women president, that meant things like attend ward council and BYC. Now that I’m a 2nd counselor, those tasks include providing rides and materials for activities. I would encourage you to make a list of the things you are doing and narrowing it down to things that no one else can do. You might  be surprised how short that list is. Anything else that needs to be done can be delegated.

Take Baby Steps

Trying to delegate a large number of items can be just as overwhelming as doing everything yourself. Take it one step at a time and remember that the people called to serve with you usually want to help.

If you’re looking for some easy ways to start giving the youth some responsibility, I suggest reading my post 6 Easy, No-Fail Ways to Release Control to the Youth.

Decide Ahead of Time Who Is Responsible

It helps a lot to decide ahead of time who is responsible for what. For example, all of our activities for the year are divided evenly among the classes. Our secretary makes a planning calendar that states who is responsible each week. Other examples are to assign camp, sports, youth conference, New Beginnings and Night of Excellence at the beginning of each year. This way, everyone knows what they’re doing and the work can be divided more evenly.

Now it’s your turn. What tricks do you use to stay away from doing it all yourself?